Whoever said only love can lead to a marriage, has got the entire scheme of things wrong. Poor soul…I would say, because neither does he understand marriage nor love.
I have always wanted a love marriage in the literal sense. Finding a guy of my dreams, fall in love, get my parents consent and ofcourse, have a lovely wedding. Well….that is what they call a love marriage right? I must add here that I have had my list of crushes and relationships as a teenager and a young adult. But somehow someone with the blue umbrella up above wanted me to understand much more than a mere love marriage. So as luck would have had it, none of these tryst worked out, leaving me “heart broken”, hmmm… isn’t this what the Mills & Boons speak of?
Enter…my parents, who asked me whether they can start looking for a guy for me? Well, I did not have much of expectations of some knight coming on a black horse to take me to the magical world, so I thought of taking the plunge.
My husband and I met for the first time, and the way a brand conscious person I am, I checked his clothes and shoes first. Thankfully they were branded. It was later that I came to know he is a bigger brand conscious person than I am. Well….now that’s huge! Thankfully we both loved good food and he had just the right speck of humour in him. I gave in, and while our parents were discussing the other formalities, he sent me an sms with Bryan Adam’s lyrics…woah! That really stole my heart away. With 2 months to go for our wedding, we gave lot of revenue to MTNL and Airtel.
Being almost strangers to each other, everything after the day of marriage was new to us, sometimes funny, sometimes irritating…well a mixed bag. If he was the one who taught me what’s chilling out, I taught him what its like to take the newspaper to the loo! Every day has been a new awakening, knowing that I just might know something new about him.
5 yrs down the line with a 3 yr old son, I know this much that its been a roller coaster, with loads of ups and downs, but most importantly, loads of fun, and the need to go on forever. I think what has done the trick is the fact that we never had any expectations from each other when we got married. We were ready to accept each other the way we were and not the way we expected each other to be. The fact that we never knew each other before, did not let any baggage come with us. We never had the issue of “U have changed! U never were like this before!” between us. He has always been the colour sky blue…vast, dreamy, cool, chilled out, calm, and I …hmm well I am the colour red…outright, outspoken, ready to go, roaring. So u see, we are different…2 ends actually, trying to come closer each day.
Manu has been my harbour, the pillar I had always missed in my life. I fell head over heels in love with him….after marriage. Love has been the consequence of our marriage and not the other way round. Every marriage is a love marriage, and its not relevant whether you fall in love before or after the marriage. All that matters is that you find and keep love in your hearts always.
I think I now know the true meaning of love marriage. Thank God.Labels: My musings